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Topic: Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans...
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Trinitty
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posted 30 July 2003 03:31 PM
I've always pictured myself an old lady (hopefully) dying in my bed, and looking back. That's always helped me make plans and aim for goals. Yes, I'm a planner for certain.
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Black Dog
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posted 30 July 2003 04:01 PM
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Originally posted by Lima Bean:
But doesn't that scare the bejeebus outta you? Aren't you worried that you're not going to end up where you want to be, just working in the short term that way? Clearly I have a fair bit of anxiety about the future...for me, just taking things day by day causes some severe panic. 
Well, it helps that I haven't the foggiest notion of "where I want to be". And that's OK. There's certain things I'd like to accomplish, for sure, but I don't stay up nights worrying about whether or not I actually will because that won't help matters any.
If I want to do something, I'll do it if I'm able. If I want to do it bad enough, I'll make a plan to do it. But the way I see it, most of the stuff people worry about, future-wise, is largely related to social expectations of what one is supposed to do in order to be considered a "productive member of society". That pressure is all around us, from the media, from family...etc etc. Basicaly what I'm trying to say is that you can't define what you do with your life by anyone else's expectations. As a wiser man than I once said: "Success on someone else's terms don't mean a fucking thing."
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badlydrawngirl
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posted 30 July 2003 04:44 PM
hey lima. i kind of had the same question as you did and posted it here:do you write down your goals? being in my early-30's, in a dead-end job, having left many friends by the wayside, and with a resultant social life i asked myself the very same questions. at first i freaked, then became very depressed as i saw my life yawning before me in a lonely, desperate abyss. then i gave my head a shake.  one of the things that i did was talk to a friend about it and she sent me this article about goal-setting. i was, to say the least, skeptical, but after having read the article, i decided 'what the hey' and wrote down my goals. and you know what? it's actually helped me focus a lot more. sure, a lot of my ideas were kind of in the making, but it solidified them into something tangible and that i had to work towards. it also kind of puts an onus on you to carry through with stuff when you've written it down. so, in my usual long-winded way of expressing myself, yes i have goals (now better articulated). i do see a future, and i'm not just taking things day-by-day hoping something will come along to make it interesting. not to say there's anything wrong with anyone else doing that, but for me, it's never gotten my anywhere. hope that helps! 
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, but wondering if you have a 'plan' for your life. 
