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posted 10 March 2006 04:10 PM      Profile for Babbling_Jenn     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
A porn of one's own, again, good title!

Jennifer O'Connor wrote a great little review of With a Rough Tongue: Femmes Write Porn. I think I get exactly what the book must be like.

Sex is notoriously hard to write, and there's stuff here that's cliché: in a single sentence a vagina is described as a “tight little opening” and “that most vulnerable orifice.” Or clunky: “Although we've only known each other for a few short hours, she has perhaps gleaned something of me in that time.” Or nonsensical: “Jennifer had already experienced one of the strangest days in her entire life. She had been pushed from one emotional extreme to another, been shot with an arrow, wounded and bandaged, and now seduced by her own employer. She decided to go with it. She relaxed her jaw and kissed back with no small amount of flirtation.”

You know, I've never found porn (visual/written) that I've been aroused by. Sometimes it can give me good ideas for later, but that's the sum of it.

So, I can believe that this book might trigger more perspiration than masturbation (or lubrication for that matter).

I wonder why that is. Has anyone out there in the booky world encountered some really good erotica? I'd love to hear from you!

It is nice to see, though, that we have some radical femmes out there trying to change the porn scene into something enjoyable for an oft-neglected portion of society. Brava!

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posted 10 March 2006 04:35 PM      Profile for Rundler     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I think it's pretty hard to recommend erotica since you'd have to know a person pretty well to have an idea of what might do it for them. Several years back I read a couple volumes of the Best Lesbian Erotica series that comes out annually. It was around the time I was coming out and I remember feeling like the thing that felt most valuable to me about the books was finding out what other people do or fantasize about -- and are willing to write about. A kind of an "Am I normal?" type thing. (Great to have it confirmed that almost nothing's "normal" when it comes to sex and desire.) And erotica is helpful as an uber-safe way to explore your own tastes. Plus, there's the undeniable frisson of women producing for women something that's been so controlled by men, with a consciousness around power that's not the porn norm.
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posted 10 March 2006 04:58 PM      Profile for S1m0n        Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
De libidibus no est disputandum - like taste, libido is undebatable.

If a piece of porn turns you on, it works. If it doesn't, it's bizarre and ridiculous. There is no middle ground.

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posted 16 March 2006 04:45 PM      Profile for Babbling_Jenn     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
That said, any pro-woman suggestions?
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posted 17 March 2006 04:30 PM      Profile for Tommy_Paine     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
I've read a lot of erotica. I've never found any that didn't offend me on some level. I guess Anais Nin's "Delta of Venus" is seen as "pro-woman" by some-- but the collection of short stories starts right off with a tale about incest.

I know a number of women who would describe themselves as feminists who enjoyed Anne Rice's "Beauty" series, but I doubt those tales would pass political muster here as "pro-woman".

The landmark "Story of O" was once seen by some as "pro-woman", though for the life of me I wouldn't know why. I didn't like the main character on any level, and that destroyed any erotic potential the book might have had for me.

Some sex shops and book stores sell novels that are short story collections. Browse them and maybe you'll find one that meets your definition of "pro-woman".

But I suspect you will not find what you are looking for.

So that leaves only one alternative. If you want something done right, then you'll just have to do it yourself.

Write your own erotica.

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posted 17 March 2006 05:18 PM      Profile for Raos     Send New Private Message      Edit/Delete Post  Reply With Quote 
Or amateur erotic storie sites online can have some content you might find you like. You'll likely have to sift through a bit of poor written, poorly imagined, and unappealing material, but every now and then you can find something good.
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